Premature ejaculation, performance anxiety: the Italians and the great rush to bed
According to the SIA (Italian Society of Andrology) 4 million Italian men aged between 20 and 50 years suffered from premature ejaculation with serious repercussions on the couple's life and intimacy. According to research conducted in these cases the 'orgasm is reached within one minute, sometimes within 30 seconds while the average time that is considered normal is around 4-7 minutes. Technically, when you define premature ejaculation occurs before the man you want, therefore outside its control.
Of course not always the brevity of coitus is a sign of the disorder, there are moments in life when it is physiological that the phenomenon occurs, for example, is common in young people in their early experiences and can occur due to a prolonged period of sexual abstinence. It can also distinguish different types of premature ejaculation: first, may be primary, when the person has always been of this disorder at an early experience without ever being able to reach orgasm when you want and secondary when the disorder occurs as a result of a period of normal operation. It might also be situational or generalized, for instance, can only occur with a fixed partner and not in other situations and / or with other partners (a good sex therapist can suggest methods other than treason to assess whether this is the case!). Secondary premature ejaculation may be a symptom of some disorders of the urogenital or nervous system or be caused by certain medications or drugs
To explain the prematurity were examined several hypotheses, each with its own foundation. In some cases may be due to psychological causes such as problems related to the couple lived, or d anxiety too high relative to sexuality (the so-called performance anxiety), in others by not recognizing the so-called point of no return that is then of intercourse after which the ejaculation can no longer be controlled, it can also depend on a deficit is serotonin, or an organic problem, as mentioned above, it follows that each case must be examined carefully by a specialist, indicating diagnosis. Most scholars agree is a disorder solved although very complex and delicate.
The repercussions within the couple is considerable and can lead to a real crisis, it is very difficult for a man who suffers from premature ejaculation to be able to ensure good quality of inner life to his mate who may feel devalued as a woman. Moreover, even the man could begin to mature sense of guilt and feelings of inadequacy towards himself and his partner. For this reason, the problem will not go completely overlooked and must be addressed with the help of a specialist. Fundamental importance that both partners are involved in the process of care (especially if approaches to psycho-sexual) because the disorder is also a problem as a couple and not just an individual problem.